What to Expect from Your First Matchmaking Introduction

Starting your journey with a professional matchmaker can feel exciting (and maybe a little nerve-wracking). After all, you’re putting your love life in expert hands and stepping into something new. At The Matchmaking Company, we know that the first step can come with a lot of questions, and we’re here to guide you every step of the way.

When you join our matchmaking program, our team takes the time to walk you through exactly how the process works. We’ll talk through expectations, communication, and what your first few weeks might look like. And if questions pop up along the way (they always do), your matchmaking team is only a call or text away.

If you’ve ever wondered what actually happens when that first introduction is ready, this guide is for you. Let’s break down what you can expect, from the first phone call to the first date, and everything that comes after.

What is an Introduction?

Before we dive in, let’s clear up one of the most common questions new clients ask: what exactly is a “matchmaking introduction”?

At The Matchmaking Company, an introduction is the first step toward potential connection. It’s when our matchmaking team believes two people have enough in common to meet and see where things go.

Not every introduction will lead to a lasting match, and that’s completely normal. Each one is an opportunity to learn more about what feels right for you. Sometimes you’ll feel a spark early on; other times, you may realize someone isn’t your person even though things look right on paper.

A match happens when you like your introduction. We call it a match when you feel things click, when you’re comfortable, or you have a curiosity that makes you want to see them again. Every introduction, whether it becomes a match or not, brings you one step closer to finding the right fit.

When Will I Receive My First Introduction?

Once you’ve completed your enrollment and shared your preferences with your matchmaking team, the matchmaking magic begins behind the scenes. We don’t rush this part. Every introduction is carefully selected based on things like shared values, compatible goals, and the qualities you’ve told us matter most to you.

Typically, you can expect to hear from your matchmaking team about your first introduction within a few weeks of joining. That timeline allows us to carefully review your profile and identify someone who feels like a natural fit.

During this time, your matchmaking team may reach out with additional questions or clarifications to make sure your profile paints a full picture of who you are. Think of this as relationship prep work. The more we know about you, the better we can introduce you to someone truly compatible.

What Happens When My Matchmaker Calls?

Once we’ve found someone we’re excited to introduce you to, your matchmaker will personally deliver their details. This is typically just a quick “here’s their number” kind of conversation. However, it’s also an opportunity to get all the encouragement you need to feel confident moving forward.

Here’s what happens:

• You’ll receive your introduction’s name and phone number.
• Your introduction will receive your contact info as well.
• Then it’s your turn to take the next step and reach out.

We encourage clients to connect as soon as possible after the introduction is made ( ideally within a day or two). It helps keep the excitement alive and sets the tone for open communication. A quick call to set up your first meeting can go a long way in creating a positive start. 

When you reach out to your introduction, try not to stay on the line for too long. Have an idea in mind of times, dates, and places where you might meet. Your first phone call is just to say, “hello, I’m excited to meet you,” and to set up a date. – Kathrine Wilson, Director of Matchmaking, The Matchmaking Company

If you ever feel unsure about how to reach out or what to say, your matchmaking team can help. We’ve coached hundreds of clients through this exact moment and can offer sample texts or call tips that feel natural and authentic to you.

What Will My First Date Be Like?

Your first date is where your introduction turns into a real-world connection. We want this to feel relaxed and enjoyable, not like a high-stakes interview or a movie scene under pressure.

A great first date is all about easy conversation and comfortable energy. You don’t need a fancy dinner or elaborate plans. In fact, we recommend keeping things light and simple for your first meeting.

Some of our favorite first-date ideas include:

• Meeting at a cozy local coffee shop.
• Visiting a local museum or art gallery.
• Grabbing ice cream or brunch at a casual café.

Whatever you choose, aim for a spot that:

• Fits both of your personalities. Pick somewhere that feels natural to you.
• Allows conversation to flow easily. Avoid loud or crowded spaces where it’s hard to talk.
• Has a natural end point (around 1–2 hours). That gives you time to connect without feeling stuck if the chemistry isn’t there.

Remember: this first meeting isn’t about deciding if you’ve met “the one.” It’s about enjoying the moment, being curious about each other, and seeing the potential in your connection.

What Should I Do After the Date?

After your first date, take a little time to reflect. How did it feel? What stood out to you? Did you feel comfortable? Are you intrigued to learn more about them?

Then, reach out to your matchmaking team to share your experience. Your feedback is incredibly valuable. Whether the date was amazing or just okay, every detail helps us fine-tune future introductions.

When you check in, tell us:

• What your date was like. We want to know about the setting, the vibe, how you felt.
• What you liked about your introduction. Manners, the way they dressed, anything that stood out.
• What didn’t work for you or felt off. These things are important, too.
• Any other details that stood out, like their tone of voice, body language, shared humor, conversation flow.

No detail is too small. The more we know, the better we can understand your preferences and chemistry patterns.

We also encourage clients to meet each introduction at least three times before making a decision about whether to pursue things further. Chemistry sometimes takes a little time to develop. A second or third meeting often brings out sides of someone that a single coffee date can’t capture.

What If I Didn’t Like My Introduction?

Not every introduction will be your perfect match, and that’s completely normal. Dating is a process of discovery, and every introduction teaches you something about what you want and what you don’t.

If you didn’t feel that spark, you’re never obligated to see someone again. But before you write them off entirely, it’s worth pausing to ask why.

Often, first-date disappointment comes from focusing on surface-level traits or expectations that may not reflect deeper compatibility. Maybe they didn’t fit the physical “type” you usually go for. Or maybe nerves made the conversation a little awkward.

The truth is, attraction is complex, and it often grows over time. Research (and our own matchmaking experience) shows that long-term relationships are built far more on emotional connection, shared values, and kindness than on perfect looks or instant chemistry.

So before deciding to move on, ask yourself a few honest questions:

• Was there a connection beyond physical attraction?
• Did they make me laugh or feel at ease?
• Did I feel comfortable being myself?
• Is there something about them I’d like to learn more about?

If the answer to even one of these is “yes,” it might be worth giving the connection another chance. Sometimes, the best relationships start with a quiet warmth rather than fireworks.

And if you’re certain it’s not a match, that’s okay too! Just let your matchmaking team know. Every “no” gets you one step closer to the “yes” that’s right for you.

What If I Want to Date My Introduction Exclusively?

That’s wonderful news (and it happens often)! When you’ve met someone through The Matchmaking Company who you’d like to explore a relationship with, you can place your membership on Happy Hold.

We still recommend seeing each other at least three times before making that decision. The first few dates are filled with excitement and potential, which can make it easy to overlook small, but important differences. Giving things time allows your relationship to grow naturally and helps ensure your excitement is rooted in genuine compatibility.

Once you’ve both agreed to see where things go exclusively, just reach out to your matchmaker by phone, text, or email. We’ll guide you through the Happy Hold process and cheer you on as your connection deepens.

If down the line you decide to resume your search, don’t worry, we’ll be right here to continue your matchmaking journey.

How Do I Move On to a New Introduction?

If your introduction didn’t feel right and you’re ready to meet someone new, the process is simple. After you share your feedback, your matchmaking team gets to work identifying your next introduction.

We’ll take into account everything you shared: your likes, dislikes, and even the small nuances that shape your preferences. Each experience helps us refine our understanding of what (and who) you’re truly looking for.

Before you know it, you’ll receive another call from your matchmaker with someone new to meet. Every introduction is a fresh opportunity to connect and learn more about yourself along the way.

Final Thoughts: Enjoy the Journey

It’s easy to focus on the end goal of finding that lasting, loving relationship. But at The Matchmaking Company, we also want you to enjoy the journey. Each introduction, each conversation, and each date is part of discovering what makes you happiest in a partner.

Our role is to take the guesswork out of dating so you can focus on connection. We handle the introductions, logistics, and emotional support. You just show up as your authentic self and stay open to possibility.

And remember, you’re not alone in this process. Your matchmaker is your biggest advocate and ally. Whether your date went amazingly or just “meh,” we’re here to celebrate, troubleshoot, and guide you toward meaningful connection.

At the end of the day, that’s what professional matchmaking is all about: helping real people find real love, with a thoughtful, human touch every step of the way.

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